Did that headline catch your eye? I thought it might!
The next time you run up against something discouraging in your business, I want you to listen to what you tell yourself about the situation.
"Hardly anyone came to my open house. This is so hard! I just can't do this."
"Well, THAT idea didn't work. On to the next one."
"No one placed an order. I guess no one wants to buy my stuff."
"Time to try some creative ways to get my product benefits out there in front of people."
"I can't figure this out. I must be to dumb to have my own business."
"I've given it my best shot, but it's time to call my upline. She'll know just how to explain it so I can get past this tough spot."
"I didn't get any RSVP's. Guess my customers just aren't interested in classes."
"I'm going to try that new event style I read about and see if I can shake things up a little."
Disappointments are inevitable. How you choose to handle them is not.
As a Christian, I often encourage struggling friends to listen to the Voice of Truth. Not the naggling whispers of inadequacy and insufficiency that play on a repeat-loop in our heads. As a business owner, I encourage you to make sure that what you are telling yourself, and the messages you are listening to are both truthful and positive.
Don't allow your self-talk to color your perception of reality and make it worse than it actually is. Sometimes, we cynically say that we're realists, just acknowledging the facts of the situation. But the truth is, what we think of as "reality" is just our perception and interpretation of it, and too many times to count, it comes down quite hard on the negative side of the scale. We actually CLOBBER the little scale with a great big brick of damaging self-talk that clunks it down to the tabletop and spills all the positive parts of our business out of the pan on the other side!
So often we don't give ourselves credit for anything that's going right,
because all we can see is the one thing that's going wrong.
HINT: sometimes it really helps me to think about what I would say to a friend who was feeling the sting of failure. Would I say, "You know, you're right. You do totally stink at this. Let's go eat a whole pan of brownies." No! Of course I wouldn't say that. I'd try to think of positive ways to spin it, lessons we could learn from it, and ways we could improve next time. Don't I owe at least that amount of kindness back to myself?
Disappointments, setbacks, and "well-that-was-a-total-flops" ARE going to happen. That's a given. What you regularly tell yourself and believe to be the truth about those incidents will make or break your business. When you hear that negative record start to crank away in your head, it's time to realize what you are doing to yourself, and rephrase and reframe that mental conversation.
Dream Big, my friend! I think you're pretty awesome.